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Dating culture is dead - instead, young New Zealand women are regularly getting drunk and cruising around in packs looking for men to have sex with.

That's one of the findings of a TVNZ Sunday investigation into the sexual behaviour of New Zealand women. The programme makers did the story after Kiwi women last year topped the Durex Sexual Wellbeing Global Survey as the world's most promiscuous.

They are reported to have an average of 20 sexual partners, double that of their Australian and British counterparts and almost three times the global average of seven.

TVNZ Sunday correspondent Janet McIntyre said there was anecdotal evidence from the five women on the show that the Durex survey findings were valid.

"There's a new kind of mating ritual sex is the point of entry into the relationship."

If the first-up sex wasn't any good women weren't prepared to waste their time progressing the relationship.

"There's no dating culture any more." In candid interviews about their sexual experiences some of the women who are all in their twenties felt empowered by having sex and wanted to celebrate and enjoy it.

McIntyre said all the women who had experienced one-night stands had been affected by alcohol, a term described by at least one expert in a report as "getting pissed and hooking up".

Men are also feeling the impact from the new sexual tactics being employed by women.

The Sunday Star-Times' Being a Bloke survey last year found that 29% of the 5000 men surveyed felt they had been pressured into having sex or had had sex unwillingly.

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Here's a funny little diversion that I recently ran across over at Holy Taco. Find out what your groceries say about you.

My favorite is #1

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Just in case you were wondering what the exact opposite of sexy is... I present to you exhibit "A"

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After a year of furiously fapping, what toys have left the strongest impression? What toys do I never leave home without—and which are gaining dust in the back of my dresser drawer? Read on and find out:

10) The We-Vibe: Combining vibration with the sexin' always seems like a great idea—but for some reason, it never seems to work out quite right. Given the mechanics of sex, cock rings can't offer a continuous source of vibration—and for some reason, no one's thought of a better solution. Well, until the We-Vibe, that is. Though it may take some exploration to find out how it works best for you, it's a wonderful way to add a little extra bump to your bump and grind.

9) The Bo: But if you'd rather stick with a cock ring, we can offer no better choice than the Bo. Unlike its cheap, gummy rubber counterparts, Bo is made of sterilizable silicone, and comes with a rechargeable battery. Clearly, a cock ring for the future.

8) The Babeland Nubby G: The Nubby G was my first love, Babeland's phthalate free version provides the same wonderful thrills without the fear of toxic chemicals. Even better, it's cheap! **BEST BUY**

7) The Curve: Until I met the Curve, I thought I hated dildos. With it's beautiful, g-spotterific curves, this toy will have you singing its praises within minutes.

6) The Mia: Going on a trip, and worried someone will see you charging your vibe? The Mia can easily pass for a USB thumb drive... until you slip it between your legs. **BEST DISCREET TOY**

5) The Delight: With its delicious curves and many, many vibe patterns, this vibe most certainly is a delight—I just wish it had a simpler navigation system.

4) The Jollie: With it's massive girth and unwieldy appearance, the Jollie may not be for everyone. But if you manage to work it inside your parts, you may find yourself transported to a place you never even knew existed.

3) The Eleven: Sure, we don't all have $300 to spend on a dildo: but if you do, why not purchase a beautifully carved, 11 inch steel dildo? Think of it as an investment. **BEST LUXURY TOY**

2) The Gigi: Sleek, rechargeable, g-spot friendly, and with an adorable mod design, the Gigi's fun to look at, fun to use, and offers some of the best controls ever seen on a dildo.

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Aki Sinkkonen at the University of Helsinki in Finland thinks the belly button, aka the umbilicus, serves a greater purpose than mere cosmetics: It may be an indicator of mating potential in fertile women.

"I propose that umbilicus, together with the surrounding skin area, is an honest signal of individual vigor," Sinkkonen wrote in the latest issue of The FASEB Journal. "More precisely, I suggest that the symmetry, shape, and position of umbilicus can be used to estimate the reproductive potential of fertile females, including risks of certain genetically and maternally inherited fetal anomalies."

Innie vs. outie

During pregnancy, the umbilical cord supplies a baby with nutrients and oxygen from the mother. After birth, it's clamped and snipped, leaving a short stump that eventually falls off.

It's not known exactly why belly buttons end up in so many different configurations. What is clear: People have preferences.

In reviewing other studies, Sinkkonen found we prefer belly buttons that are t-shaped or oval and vertical, with a little hooding, and which don't protrude. In short, we dislike outies and don't favor the cavernous variety either.

Sinkkonen reviewed other studies of the umbilicus and essentially connected some dots. He notes that the umbilical cord is critical during pregnancy, and suggests that many problems can be reflected in scar tissue, which is essentially what's left behind as a belly button.

"I suggest that umbilicus is a fitness signal," Sinkkonen told LiveScience in an email. "I may be wrong. However, many mammals do not have a visible umbilicus. We have, but it does not have an obvious function, except signaling."

Not just navel gazing

This novel navel notion has a serious aspect.

"If further research confirms the signaling hypothesis, female umbilici may be routinely measured to detect risk pregnancies of several fetal abnormalities," Sinkkonen wrote in the journal.

And for anyone who worries their love life might be doomed by an imperfect belly button?

"Don't worry," Sinkkonen said. "Nobody's perfect except Angelina Jolie. Seriously, I know wonderful women who believe that their umbilicus/belly button is ugly. Nobody should pay too much attention on the details of his/her body."

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The fear of being alone inflicts on anyone who harbors it feelings of insecurity, anxiety, low self esteem and self worth, the tendency to depend and rely too readily on others and their opinions, feelings of emptiness and a needy disposition that makes them unattractive to others.

In other words it perpetuates the very thing that the person fears — being alone.

Yet many who are afflicted by this have no idea what to do about it other than to try and wrestle it to the ground and pretend to themselves and others that they are not afraid of being alone. Does this feel like a tenable strategy to you? Hardly!

There is another solution and I present it here in a powerful way that I feel will shift you and your experience permanently if you wish to undertake this pioneering journey into yourself.

The Motivation of Fear

Let's start with the simple question:

What does this fear actually motivate you to do?

Well, it supposedly motivates one to find friends so that they will no longer feel alone.

So if they are no longer feeling alone what are they supposedly feeling instead?

Well, they would be feeling secure, comfortable, like they fit in, attractive to others, loved, good about themselves, happy, at peace and so on.

What the Fear of Being Alone Does

So in summary one could then say that:

The fear of being alone causes one to not feel secure, comfortable, like they fit in, loved, good about themselves, happy, at peace and so on. (I call this the Summary Statement)

Now if we look at what the fear of being alone actually does to you you'll notice as stated above that it leads to feelings of insecurity, anxiety, low self esteem and self worth, the tendency to depend and rely to readily on others and their opinions, feelings of emptiness and a needy disposition that makes them unattractive to others.

In other words it perpetuates the very thing that the person fears i.e. being alone.

The Toxicity of the Fear Of Being Alone

This fear is clearly TOXIC, is it not?

If you see this place one hand over your heart and as if you are speaking from there simply affirm this to yourself and then notice how you feel.

Now does what this fear does to you concur with the Summary Statement above?

Hardly, because they are exact opposites!

The Truth About the Fear Of Being Alone

So which is the truth about this fear?

Well, I think that you'll recognize that the Summary Statement is false.

A Simple Affirmation

If you do, place one hand over your heart, and as if you are speaking from there simply affirm this to yourself and then notice how you feel.

So do you want this false statement to be living inside your mind or body? If not, as if you are speaking from your heart command that it be forever purged from your life.

Next, with your hand over your heart command the fear of being alone to be purged from your life.

Finally, in the present tense (i.e. I am feeling …etc.) describe how you would rather feel and be. Once you have your list then once again affirm this as if you are speaking this from you heart.

Notice how you feel now.

If you've followed this, you'll find yourself in an entirely new place in your self and you life.

Congratulations!

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Early on, you may not wear any.  For some reason, men find this incredibly sexy.  Perhaps it's their genetic laziness – the same gene that causes them to watch an infomercial after the game because they don't know where the remote is and they sure as hell aren't getting up to look for it.  The idea of reaching up your skirt and finding nothing standing between them and your sweet spot drives them insane.

After a short time, you spice it up with a sexy thong.  This turns him on, too.  Again… genetics.  Men are hunters, and he needs to explore your "nethers" finding where that little strip of material disappeared to.  We, as women, need to encourage this!  Thongs, g-strings, crotchless panties… They all do the trick to get your man to hunt and gather.

Then, a little more material comes into the picture and you start wearing teddies, babydolls, and camis.  This works wonders in the world of male genetics because men have always been fascinated with uncovering treasures.  Boys love "diggers"… bulldozers and the like.  Granted, probably not the gentlest of methods, but what do we care?  Rip those clothes off, baby!  They see something they like, know there's something more to love underneath, and suddenly they're on a mission to uncover the secrets of your world.

The step women take after this puzzles me.  At some point, women start buying these enormous cotton granny panties.  I hear excuse after excuse about how they're "comfortable" or how there's no reason to "bother" with thongs and such anymore.  WHAT???  Let's think logically here.  ALL panties are gonna migrate up your ass at some point during the day, agreed?  That comfort stuff you spew is bullshit.  I'd much rather have a half-inch of fabric intentionally there than to be ducking around a corner to wiggle five inches worth of material out of my ass.

As for male genetics and granny panties?  We know men are lazy.  We've established that's why minimal clothing is ideal.  While that excites them, granny panties have the opposite effect.  That much fabric reminds them of a blanket and they want nothing more than to roll over and go to sleep.

So use his genetics to your advantage.  Encourage him to explore and remind him there is one hell of a treasure to be unearthed!!!

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