Libido in Older Women
Recently, a reader wrote to us looking for more information on the loss of libido in his partner. While we conduct research on the matter, I thought that I would put a few initial thoughts on the subject.
As most people will find, It is natural to lose a little drive as we age due to changes in hormone production. In addition to the aging process, there are numerous medications that effect one's sex drive. You'd think that your friendly neighborhood pharmacist would put a big orange warning sticker on the side of the medicine bottle bringing that little side-effect to your attention, but apparently "Take With Food" is more important... And then there are busy schedules, children in the house, grass to be cut, and the ubiquitous headache. I have had first-hand experience with all of them.
The cards seemed to be stacked against you. But, don't throw in the towel - here are some great suggestions!
One: If you you or your partner are on medications, speak with you doctor about the potential side-effects. They might be able to change your prescription to something that will not affect your sex drive.
Two: Side aside quite time for you and your partner if children are a hindrance to your cavorting (get a hotel room if need be).
Three: Talk to your partner about how you're feeling and how they are feeling.
Four: Take a look in the mirror. Are you the 'stud' that you once were? Clean yourself up a bit and throw away those threadbare, tighty-whities. Don't prance around in the buff. Keep things hidden for a little while.
Five: Try new foods and new places. Get out of the house and break out if the routine.
Six: Try a little adult videos or toys
Seven: This may be a little drastic for the uninitiated, but if your in a city, there's bound to be a swingers club nearby. Be a voyeur or just talk to a few people.Just being around other sexy people, will get the blood flowing.
Eight: It may be that your partner is uncomfortable with their own body, do what you can to make them feel comfortable and encourage them.
Nine: Teach yourself some new tricks. There are several good books on lovemaking.
I don't think that there is a magic solution. And I think that we all tend to get complacent over the years. So, it's up to you to mix things up a bit, try new things, places, foods and events (concerts), step out of the routine and spruce up the old facade!
As most people will find, It is natural to lose a little drive as we age due to changes in hormone production. In addition to the aging process, there are numerous medications that effect one's sex drive. You'd think that your friendly neighborhood pharmacist would put a big orange warning sticker on the side of the medicine bottle bringing that little side-effect to your attention, but apparently "Take With Food" is more important... And then there are busy schedules, children in the house, grass to be cut, and the ubiquitous headache. I have had first-hand experience with all of them.
The cards seemed to be stacked against you. But, don't throw in the towel - here are some great suggestions!
One: If you you or your partner are on medications, speak with you doctor about the potential side-effects. They might be able to change your prescription to something that will not affect your sex drive.
Two: Side aside quite time for you and your partner if children are a hindrance to your cavorting (get a hotel room if need be).
Three: Talk to your partner about how you're feeling and how they are feeling.
Four: Take a look in the mirror. Are you the 'stud' that you once were? Clean yourself up a bit and throw away those threadbare, tighty-whities. Don't prance around in the buff. Keep things hidden for a little while.
Five: Try new foods and new places. Get out of the house and break out if the routine.
Six: Try a little adult videos or toys
Seven: This may be a little drastic for the uninitiated, but if your in a city, there's bound to be a swingers club nearby. Be a voyeur or just talk to a few people.Just being around other sexy people, will get the blood flowing.
Eight: It may be that your partner is uncomfortable with their own body, do what you can to make them feel comfortable and encourage them.
Nine: Teach yourself some new tricks. There are several good books on lovemaking.
I don't think that there is a magic solution. And I think that we all tend to get complacent over the years. So, it's up to you to mix things up a bit, try new things, places, foods and events (concerts), step out of the routine and spruce up the old facade!
