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What Men and Women Want
By: Tonya Reid
Men and women are quite different, which basically means that (surprise!) they are driven by different things in a mate. Having been a single woman living in Los Angeles for a while now, and being the ever-observant creature that I am, I feel that the following is pretty accurate in regard to what we want from each other:
These are the five types of women that men go for:
The Slut—It's no secret that men are driven by what they see. The chicks that prance around in barely-there outfits and put themselves out there like walking sex billboards will definitely attract a man, but not for long. These women are the "Promiscuous" girls that Nelly Furtado sang about. They think it's cute to get sloppy drunk and flash strangers. They feel empowered by having one-night stands and getting attention from as many men as they can. Without the shenanigans of these girls, Joe Francis of Girls Gone Wild fame would have been forced into another line of work.
The Knockout—She's beautiful, she's confident, and she knows how to
get what she wants. All eyes are on her when she walks into a room.
Mucho points for a man's ego. Other men wish they could have her and
women are slightly intimidated by her (although they won't admit it).
The Challenge—Men love the thrill of the hunt. They want the woman that
is attractive, smart, charming … and out of their reach. The woman who
doesn't fall all over them when other women do. The woman this is
nonchalant or even slightly aloof regarding the fact that this man
wants her so bad. She may even be his friend, but he just can't quite
get there.
The Submissive—These are women who will make a man feel like a man. She
likes for him to take the bull by the horns in the relationship and she
will cater to him no matter what. He won't have to clean/take care of
the kids/cook or do much of anything because she's like his own
personal servant.
The One You Can Take Home to Mama—This woman is just an all-around
great catch. She gets along with his friends, understands him like no
other, makes him laugh, shares his interests, stimulates his mind,
maybe even lets him watch a game in peace every once in a while. She's
a keeper!
The five types of men that women go for:
The Bad Boy—He may not have a pot to p*ss in or a window to throw it out, but, if he's a thug or some other type of bad boy, women will want him. BAD. They'll wanna fight other women for him. They'll wanna be his baby mama. They'll wanna be the one that he settles for. Guess what? This dude's not gonna settle! He loves the attention and he'll play a woman as long as she lets him. And if you leave him? So what. There's another woman waiting around the corner to take your place. Turns out he's been seeing her on the side anyway.
The Brainiac—Women are turned on by a certain part of a man where the bigger, the better. I'm talking about his brain, of course! We love a man who can challenge our intellect and enlighten us on a few subjects, whether it be politics, mechanical engineering, or whatever subject matter we're lacking knowledge in. It's sexy when a man can hold a stimulating conversation and actually look us in the eye. It doesn't hurt when he can answer a few questions while playing Trivial Pursuit, either.
The Charmer—Charisma is extremely important. Nobody wants to end up with someone who will bore them out of their skull. It's important to us that our man is appreciated by our friends and loved ones. He should have the wit and charm to hold folks in awe for hours on end. We want to hear them say "What a great guy! I like him. When is he coming around again?"
The Knight in Shining Armor—Let's face it, women don't like wimps. We want a man to protect us from danger, defend our honor, and carry our heavy groceries (not necessarily in that order). We want a strong man in our corner. Not that we'll test him, but we basically want him to be able to kick someone's butt if it comes down to that.
The Perfect Man—Does he exist? Some seem to have found him. This is the guy who fits a good chunk of the checklist items of what we want in a man. Handsome? Check. Got a job? Check. Watches chick flicks without complaining? Check. He may have some little quirks that we think are cute, but overall he's all that, and then some. Sometimes he's right in front of us and we don't even realize it.
Absinthe Deemed Safe, Other Dangerous Drinks
Absinthe
recently returned to America after being banned for nearly a century.
But thanks to a restriction on the level of the chemical thujone,
there's pretty much no possibility of enjoying the drink's legendary
psychedelic properties.
We've tried the bitter-tasting green liquor -- available in U.S. markets courtesy of brands like Pernod, Lucid and Kubler -- and found that while strong (they are typically 128 proof or more), we never felt the thrill that the absinthe-drinking poets and painters of old claim to have experienced. Instead, it just made us conventionally toasted.
This got us thinking. What are some of the most dangerous drinks man has put in his belly? After doing some research, we discovered that downing absinthe, even the original stuff, wasn't close to some of the riskiest libations that people have dared to drink.
Check out the concoctions below, and find some of our favorite absinthe recipes after the jump.
We've tried the bitter-tasting green liquor -- available in U.S. markets courtesy of brands like Pernod, Lucid and Kubler -- and found that while strong (they are typically 128 proof or more), we never felt the thrill that the absinthe-drinking poets and painters of old claim to have experienced. Instead, it just made us conventionally toasted.
This got us thinking. What are some of the most dangerous drinks man has put in his belly? After doing some research, we discovered that downing absinthe, even the original stuff, wasn't close to some of the riskiest libations that people have dared to drink.
Check out the concoctions below, and find some of our favorite absinthe recipes after the jump.
Most Dangerous Drinks
Ethanol/Grain Alcohol It is illegal to sell this 190-proof "drink" in California, Florida, Hawaii, Illinois, Maine, Massachusetts, Michigan, Minnesota, Nevada, New York, Ohio, Pennsylvania, Virginia, and Washington. Obviously, the liver has lobbyists in those states.
Moonshine Prohibition caused people to take all sorts of odd steps to get their buzz on. For those who took the Bo and Luke route, a shoddy brew included methanol (a.k.a. wood alcohol) that acts in a few hours and can cause blindness. Perhaps that allowed them to not realize they were making out with cousin Daisy.
Hjemmebrent Norway's Moonshine goes a bit further, being distilled to 96% alcohol. In Tara Grescoe's book "The Devil's Picnic," drinking hjemmebrent is described this way: "You were sober then you were drunk. It was grim, goal-oriented, and a little sad. And the hangover was like no other." Scary. We can't imagine anything worse than a PBR hangover.
Blood Religious groups and tribes, including the Suri of Ethiopia, have been drinking blood for centuries. For some it's a ritual, for others it's just a great way to risk contracting Hepatitis B and C.
Coca Cola Coca-Cola launched the disastrous "New Coke" in 1985, but in truth, the stuff we'd been consuming for decades was new. The true original version had cocaine in it. If Coca Cola still had cocaine in it, the world would be a sleepless wasteland of rambling teeth grinders.
Black Drink Made from roasted leaves of the Yaupon Holly, Native Americans males consumed the Black Drink in a ritualistic manner, substituting it for coffee or tea. They purged themselves after imbibing for hours at a time, leading to the berry's appealing Latin name, "Ilex vomitoria."
Jolt Cola Jolt Cola's slogan is "all the sugar and twice the caffeine." But if you consider that a few of the symptoms of caffeine overdose include restlessness, nervousness, insomnia, increased urination, gastrointestinal distress, muscle twitching, irritability, and irregular heart beat, a cold Jolt doesn't sound so good.
Bombes Enterprising bar owners in Greece originally came up with Bombes -- a mixture of alcohol and cheap, dangerous industrial spirits. These drinks are so lethal that the government had to step in, because the loss of bar patrons due to death wasn't enough to keep them from being served.
Bud Extra A couple of years back, someone at Budweiser came up with a plan to keep beer drinkers from passing out. They called it "B to the E," and injected it with ginseng and high levels caffeine. In June 2008, Anheuser-Busch pulled the product in response to public criticism, which was completely warranted.
Kumis Though not technically a danger to your physical health, there's something psychologically troubling about sipping Kumis, a booze made from fermented mare's milk. Russians have been drinking from the horse's teat for centuries, but we'll pass.
Dixie Cocktail
1 oz dry gin
1/2 oz absinthe
1/2 oz dry vermouth
Juice of 1/4 orange
Combine all ingredients in a shaker, mix and serve in a martini glass over crushed ice.
Absinthe Frappe
1 1/4 oz absinthe
1/4 oz Anisette
Pour on top of ice into a lowball glass. Top with a dash of soda water.
Here are some other questionable libations people have enjoyed over the years.
Great 'Other" Uses for Tea
Cool sunburned skinWhat
can you do when you forget to use sunscreen and have to pay the price
with a painful burn? A few wet tea bags applied to the affected skin
will take out the sting. This works well for other types of minor burns
(i.e., from a teapot or steam iron) too. If the sunburn is too
widespread to treat this way, put some tea bags in your bathwater and
soak your whole body in the tub.
Relieve your tired eyesRevitalize
tired, achy, or puffy eyes. Soak two tea bags in warm water and place
them over your closed eyes for 20 minutes. The tannins in the tea act
to reduce puffiness and soothe tired eyes.
Reduce razor burnOuch!
Why didn't you remember to replace that razor blade before you started
to shave? To soothe razor burn and relieve painful nicks and cuts,
apply a wet tea bag to the affected area. And don't forget to replace
the blade before your next shave.
Get the gray outTurn
gray hair dark again without an expensive trip to the salon or the use
of chemical hair dyes. Make your own natural dye using brewed tea and
herbs: Steep 3 tea bags in 1 cup boiling water. Add 1 tablespoon each
of rosemary and sage (either fresh or dried) and let it stand overnight
before straining. To use, shampoo as usual, and then pour or spray the
mixture on your hair, making sure to saturate it thoroughly. Take care
not to stain clothes. Blot with a towel and do not rinse. It may take
several treatments to achieve desired results.
Condition dry hairTo
give a natural shine to dry hair, use a quart (liter) of warm,
unsweetened tea (freshly brewed or instant) as a final rinse after your
regular shampoo.
Tan your skin with teaGive
pale skin a healthy tan appearance without exposure to dangerous
ultraviolet rays. Brew 2 cups strong black tea, let it cool, and pour
into a plastic spray bottle. Make sure your skin is clean and dry. Then
spray the tea directly onto your skin and let it air-dry. Repeat as
desired for a healthy-looking glowing tan. This will also work to give
a man's face a more natural look after shaving off a beard.
Drain a boilDrain
a boil with a boiled tea bag! Cover a boil with a wet tea bag overnight
and the boil should drain without pain by the time you wake up next
morning.
Soothe nipples sore from nursingWhen
breast-feeding the baby leaves your nipples sore, treat them to an
ice-cold bag of tea. Just brew a cup of tea, remove the bag, and place
it in a cup of ice for about a minute. Then place the wet tea bag on
the sore nipple and cover it with a nursing pad under your bra for
several minutes while you enjoy a cup of tea. The tannic acid in the
wet tea leaves will soothe and help heal the sore nipple.
Soothe those bleeding gumsThe
child may be all smiles later when the tooth fairy arrives, but right
now those bleeding gums are no fun whatsoever. To stop the bleeding and
soothe the pain from a lost or recently pulled tooth, wet a tea bag
with cool water and press it directly onto the site.
Relieve baby's pain from injectionIs
the baby still crying from that recent inoculation shot? Try wetting a
tea bag and placing it over the site of the injection. Hold it gently
in place until the crying stops. The tannic acid in the tea will soothe
the soreness. You might try it on yourself the next time an injection
leaves your arm sore.
Dry poison ivy rashDry
a weepy poison ivy rash with strongly brewed tea. Simply dip a cotton
ball into the tea, dab it on the affected area, and let it air-dry.
Repeat as needed.
Stop foot odorPut
an end to smelly feet by giving them a daily tea bath. Just soak your
tootsies in strongly brewed tea for 20 minutes a day and say good-bye
to offensive odors.
Make soothing mouthwashTo
ease toothache or other mouth pain, rinse your mouth with a cup of hot
peppermint tea mixed with a pinch or two of salt. Peppermint is an
antiseptic and contains menthol, which alleviates pain on contact with
skin surfaces. To make peppermint tea, boil 1 tablespoon fresh
peppermint leaves in 1 cup water and steep for several minutes.
Tenderize tough meat
Clean wood furniture and floors
Create "antique" fashions
Shine your mirrors
Control dust from fireplace ash
Perfume a sachet
Give roses a boost
Feed your ferns
Prepare planter for potting
Enhance your compost pile
To speed up the decomposition process and enrich your compost, pour a few cups of strongly brewed tea into the heap. The liquid tea will hasten decomposition and draw acid-producing bacteria, creating desirable acid-rich compost
[Readers Digest]
Tenderize tough meatEven
the toughest cuts of meat will melt in your mouth after you marinate
them in regular black tea. Here's how: Place 4 tablespoons black tea
leaves in a pot of warm (not boiling) water and steep for 5 minutes.
Strain to remove the leaves and stir in 1/2 cup brown sugar until it
dissolves. Set aside. Season up to 3 pounds (1.5 kilograms) meat with
salt, pepper, onion, and garlic powder, and place it in a Dutch oven.
Pour the liquid over the seasoned meat and cook in a preheated 325°F
(165°C) oven until the meat is fork tender, about 90 minutes.
Clean wood furniture and floorsFreshly
brewed tea is great for cleaning wood furniture and floors. Just boil a
couple of tea bags in a quart (liter) of water and let it cool. Dip a
soft cloth in the tea, wring out the excess, and use it to wipe away
dirt and grime. Buff dry with a clean, soft cloth.
Create "antique" fashionsSoak
white lace or garments in a tea bath to create an antique beige, ecru,
or ivory look. Use 3 tea bags for every 2 cups of boiling water and
steep for 20 minutes. Let it cool for a few minutes before soaking the
material for 10 minutes or more. The longer you let it soak, the darker
the shade you will get.
Shine your mirrorsTo
make mirrors sparkle and shine, brew a pot of strong tea, let it cool,
and then use it to clean the mirrors. Dampen a soft cloth in the tea
and wipe it all over the surface of the mirrors. Then buff with a soft,
dry cloth for a sparkly, streak-free shine.
Control dust from fireplace ashKeep
dust from rising from the ashes when you clean out your fireplace.
Before you begin cleaning, sprinkle wet tea leaves over the area. The
tea will keep the ashes from spreading all over as you lift them out.
Perfume a sachetNext
time you make a sachet, try perfuming it with the fragrant aroma of
your favorite herbal tea. Just open a few used herbal tea bags and
spread the wet tea on some old newspaper to dry. Then use the dry tea
as stuffing for the sachet.
Give roses a boostSprinkle
new or used tea leaves (loose or in tea bags) around your rosebushes
and cover with mulch to give them a midsummer boost. When you water the
plants, the nutrients from the tea will be released into the soil,
spurring growth. Roses love the tannic acid that occurs naturally in
tea.
Feed your fernsSchedule
an occasional teatime for your ferns and other acid-loving houseplants.
Substitute brewed tea when watering the plants. Or work wet tea leaves
into the soil around the plants to give them a lush, luxuriant look.
Prepare planter for pottingFor
healthier potted plants, place a few used tea bags on top of the
drainage layer at the bottom of the planter before potting. The tea
bags will retain water and leach nutrients to the soil.
Enhance your compost pileTo speed up the decomposition process and enrich your compost, pour a few cups of strongly brewed tea into the heap. The liquid tea will hasten decomposition and draw acid-producing bacteria, creating desirable acid-rich compost
[Readers Digest]
Designer vagina trend 'worrying'
A leading urogynaecologist has spoken out against the growing popularity of cosmetic vaginal surgery.
Professor Linda Cardozo, of King's College Hospital, London,
says little evidence exists to advise women on the safety or
effectiveness of procedures. These include operations to make the external appearance more
"attractive" and reshaping the vagina to counter laxity after
childbirth, for example. She discussed the issues at a medical meeting in Montreal, Canada.
A Google search showed over 45,000 references to cosmetic vaginal surgery, yet on medical databases such as PubMed or Medline there were fewer than 100. Professor Cardozo said the most established vaginal cosmetic procedure was reduction labioplasty - a procedure to make the labia smaller - which is requested by women either for aesthetic reasons or to alleviate physical discomfort. "Women want to emulate the supermodel. It's part of a trend. But they should know that all surgery can be risky. "Most of the procedures are done in the private sector and it's totally unregulated." The exact numbers of procedures carried out are unknown.
In the past five years there has been a doubling of the number of labial reductions carried out on the NHS from 400 in 2000/1 to 800 in 2004/5.
Growing trend
The evidence from existing case studies shows that the procedure, which costs about £2,000 at a private clinic, does have positive aesthetic results but it is unclear whether it resolves feelings of psychological distress or improves sexual functioning, she said.
And there was little evidence that "vaginal rejuvenation" - the surgical repair of vaginal laxity, with a price tag of about £3,000 - improved symptoms and was any better than doing simple pelvic floor muscle exercises.
She said robust research was needed so that doctors could properly advise their patients. In the meantime, she urged surgeons to remain cautious and operate only as a last resort.
In her presentation at the Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists 7th International Scientific Meeting, Professor Cardozo said: "Cosmetic vaginal procedures raise a number of serious ethical questions.
"Women are paying large sums of money for this type of surgery which may improve the appearance of their genitalia but there is no evidence that it improves function."
Horny Goat Weed Could Be Better Than Viagra
Epimedium, also known as horny goat weed. This is an example of Epimedium grandiflorum, a different species to the one used in the study (Image: Sphl, Wikimedia Commons)
NewScientist.com news service
The soft green heart-shaped leaf of the horny goat weed could hold the key to a new drug for treating erectile dysfunction. Researchers say the Viagra alternative could be as effective as the famous blue pill, but have fewer side-effects.
Mario Dell'Agli of the University of Milan, Italy, and colleagues tested four plants which are used as natural aphrodisiacs in traditional cultures to establish their potential as alternatives to Viagra.
Viagra's active compound, sildenafil, works by inhibiting an enzyme called phosphodiesterase-5 (PDE5). Because PDE5 helps control blood flow to the penis, inhibiting PDE5 promotes male erection.
Dell'Agli and his colleagues tested the four plants in vitro to see how efficient they were at inhibiting PDE5. Just one – Epimedium brevicornum, also known as horny goat weed and Bishop's Hat – had an effect. This confirmed previous studies showing that icariin, a compound found inside the horny goat weed, is a PDE5 inhibitor.
The fifth compound
Sildenafil, however, is 80 times more effective at inhibiting PDE5 than icariin. Dell'Agli and his team extracted icariin from the plants, and produced six modified versions of it, which they also tested on PDE5. The most efficient of these, compound 5, "works as well as Viagra", says Dell'Agli.
A drug made from compound 5 could also cause fewer side effects than Viagra.
In addition to PDE5, sildenafil affects other phosphodiesterases, including some that are essential to sight and heart function. As a result, people who have heart problems are not advised to take Viagra and patients who do take the drug sometimes suffer disturbances to their eyesight.
Preliminary tests suggest that compound 5 does not affect other phosphodiesterases, meaning it may not have the same side effects as Viagra.
Eat your weeds
Compound 5 will now have to go through lengthy clinical trials before it can be approved as a drug. It could be 10 years before it reaches the market.
In the meantime, "if people eat horny goat weed, I think it can be beneficial because it contains icariin," says Dell'Agli. "But it will not be as effective as Viagra."
Horny goat weed is found in the wild in China, Asia and Europe.
The research was supported by private funds, but Dell'Agli declined to provide details.
Journal reference: Journal of Natural Products, DOI: 10.1021/np800049y
Sugasm #148
The best of this week's blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #149? Submit a link to your best post of the week by emailing me directly at radicalvixenatgmaildotcom Participants, repost the link list within a week and you're all set.
This Week's Picks
People I could hang out with
"But it wasn't just a story, it was a damn sexy story."
Red, Hot Ass
"I grunted, but held still."
Smart Girls Make Better Lovers
"Chicks with brains can make you scream."
Mr. Sugasm Himself
Sugar Bank
Editor's Choice
Sex Blogging and Writing for the Drawer
See also: Fleshbot's Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.
(Sugasm participants should re-post all the links above within a week. The following links may be excluded as long as you include all the above links.)
Sex History
Right To Vibe
Erotic Writing and Experiences
A is for
Adult Party Games - Round One
Adventures in Digital
Balcony fun
The Dinner Party: Part I
Female Waxing
Frisson
Her Glorious Cunt
Lilly and the Construction Crew
Not So Complicated
Sex in Public on Road Trip Day 9
So Wrong….
The Waiting is the Hottest Part. Confession #140
Sex News, Reviews, & Interviews
Every Kind of Sex Available: Exploring The Limits of CyberSex
NYC Sex Bloggers 2009 Calendar
NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio
Impertinent Question: What's the Kinkiest Thing You've Ever Done?
Study HNT
Sex Work
Sex Work and Compassion: Self Hating Client
The Sockjob Goddess Returneth…
Sex Advice
Libido in Older Women
Pregnancy BDSM
Try the Pelvic Slide Position for Maximum Clitoral Stimulation
BDSM & Fetish
A domestic fantasy
A man becomes a fucking machine
Not your usual gangbang.
Playing the scene
Sex Camp 2008: Fiiiiyuuuurrrr!!!
Sex Humor
Fantasy Friday: Ahoy, Matey!
Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
Autobiography of a Masturbator: Porn O'Graphicus, Part 4
Marriage Failure a Natural Success
Never submit to escort screening
Sex Shop Jitters
Ten Things I Find Extremely Sexy On Men - The Non-Physical Version
What I read at Dirty Words night
Why do I do This?
Quote of the Day
"Light the candles 'til they're nice and soft. And when they start to drip, I'm gonna get you off"
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Libido in Older Women
Recently, a reader wrote to us looking for more information on the loss of libido in his partner. While we conduct research on the matter, I thought that I would put a few initial thoughts on the subject.
As most people will find, It is natural to lose a little drive as we age due to changes in hormone production. In addition to the aging process, there are numerous medications that effect one's sex drive. You'd think that your friendly neighborhood pharmacist would put a big orange warning sticker on the side of the medicine bottle bringing that little side-effect to your attention, but apparently "Take With Food" is more important... And then there are busy schedules, children in the house, grass to be cut, and the ubiquitous headache. I have had first-hand experience with all of them.
The cards seemed to be stacked against you. But, don't throw in the towel - here are some great suggestions!
One: If you you or your partner are on medications, speak with you doctor about the potential side-effects. They might be able to change your prescription to something that will not affect your sex drive.
Two: Side aside quite time for you and your partner if children are a hindrance to your cavorting (get a hotel room if need be).
Three: Talk to your partner about how you're feeling and how they are feeling.
Four: Take a look in the mirror. Are you the 'stud' that you once were? Clean yourself up a bit and throw away those threadbare, tighty-whities. Don't prance around in the buff. Keep things hidden for a little while.
Five: Try new foods and new places. Get out of the house and break out if the routine.
Six: Try a little adult videos or toys
Seven: This may be a little drastic for the uninitiated, but if your in a city, there's bound to be a swingers club nearby. Be a voyeur or just talk to a few people.Just being around other sexy people, will get the blood flowing.
Eight: It may be that your partner is uncomfortable with their own body, do what you can to make them feel comfortable and encourage them.
Nine: Teach yourself some new tricks. There are several good books on lovemaking.
I don't think that there is a magic solution. And I think that we all tend to get complacent over the years. So, it's up to you to mix things up a bit, try new things, places, foods and events (concerts), step out of the routine and spruce up the old facade!
As most people will find, It is natural to lose a little drive as we age due to changes in hormone production. In addition to the aging process, there are numerous medications that effect one's sex drive. You'd think that your friendly neighborhood pharmacist would put a big orange warning sticker on the side of the medicine bottle bringing that little side-effect to your attention, but apparently "Take With Food" is more important... And then there are busy schedules, children in the house, grass to be cut, and the ubiquitous headache. I have had first-hand experience with all of them.
The cards seemed to be stacked against you. But, don't throw in the towel - here are some great suggestions!
One: If you you or your partner are on medications, speak with you doctor about the potential side-effects. They might be able to change your prescription to something that will not affect your sex drive.
Two: Side aside quite time for you and your partner if children are a hindrance to your cavorting (get a hotel room if need be).
Three: Talk to your partner about how you're feeling and how they are feeling.
Four: Take a look in the mirror. Are you the 'stud' that you once were? Clean yourself up a bit and throw away those threadbare, tighty-whities. Don't prance around in the buff. Keep things hidden for a little while.
Five: Try new foods and new places. Get out of the house and break out if the routine.
Six: Try a little adult videos or toys
Seven: This may be a little drastic for the uninitiated, but if your in a city, there's bound to be a swingers club nearby. Be a voyeur or just talk to a few people.Just being around other sexy people, will get the blood flowing.
Eight: It may be that your partner is uncomfortable with their own body, do what you can to make them feel comfortable and encourage them.
Nine: Teach yourself some new tricks. There are several good books on lovemaking.
I don't think that there is a magic solution. And I think that we all tend to get complacent over the years. So, it's up to you to mix things up a bit, try new things, places, foods and events (concerts), step out of the routine and spruce up the old facade!
