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Carson Kressley has hit a nerve. Maybe that's why his Lifetime television program, How to Look Good Naked, is one of the most popular reality shows on television. Most women are terribly insecure with their bodies in bathing suits, let alone naked.

While I watched his interview on Oprah, I couldn't help but think of new moms. Staring at one's baby pooch can be flat out depressing, squelching any kind of desire to get naked with one's husband. Yet it's still important to re-engage sexually with your husband. And a big part of that is about overcoming a negative body image in bed.

In their excellent book, Intimate Issues: 21 Questions Christian Women Ask About Sex, authors Linda Dillow & Lorraine Pintus have a chapter titled, "Where Can I Go to Buy a New Body?" Can you relate? They asked 25 friends of their friends if they were satisfied with their bodies. Every single one of them said no. They claimed to be too tall or too short, too fat or too skinny.

Today's woman has bought into the lie that she has to look like a Victoria Secret model to be sexy. But being a great lover in bed has more to do with your attitude than your measurements.

So what can a new mother do to overcome her disdain for her body, and celebrate lovemaking with her husband, even if the lights are on?

1. Remember that your husband loves you and your body. Dr. John Gray, author of Mars and Venus in the Bedroom, says "When a man is in love and turned on by his wife, he is also totally entranced by the feminine beauty of her body, regardless of where the media would rank it on a scale of one to ten."

2. Change your attitude from "me centered" to "he centered." Put your husband first. Don't fixate on your insecurities. Instead think of how you can please him. When you take the spotlight off yourself and put it on your spouse, you forget about your imperfections.

3. Avoid the dangers of pornography. 40 million adults in the US regularly visit Internet porn sites. Pornography is a major problem in families today, dividing husbands and wives sexually and emotionally. Moms, don't allow your insecurity about your body to stand in the way of meeting your husband's sexual needs.

When you offer your body to your spouse out of love, it doesn't matter what shape or size you are. Be encouraged – it is possible to be sexy in bed after baby. And don't worry about the extra love handles. They will come off in time with some work on your part. For now, concentrate on your attitude. Don't be afraid to keep the lights on and get naked with your husband.

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The hotness never stops. Here is a list of our greatest hits that you may have missed. BTW - Want to be an author? Let us know...

1. Ultimate Sexy Bedroom
2. The Art of Sensual Massage
3. Three Styles of Sex
4. 20 Top Sex Tips
5. Tantric Sex Techniques
6. Finding G-Spot

We've moved around a bit... trying out a new hosting site, adding features and functions to our website and changing the design around. But in the long run, I think that we've confused our readers a bit as to what-is-what. This post is to clear up that issue and hopefully you'll make the effort to update your subscriptions.

Going forward, Zinlightened.com will be our main website.

Hope to see you soon!

~Zin

Sorry for the lack of activity recently... I've been caught up in the doldrums lately. I don't know whether it's a funk of just a lack of inspiration. Much of my material comes from research from around the internet. I just act as a concentrator of information as it relates to my little topics. In looking around out there I have come to realize that I really can't bring the quality of information that I would like to without some assistance.

Zinlightened.com started out as a hobby (gone wild). But as with any publication, be it a magazine, newspaper, tabloid or radio show, it's not a one person show. So consider this a request for contributors.

If you are interested in becoming a contributor, please email me at zin(at)zinlightened(dot)com and send me a sample article(s).

I found this little tidbit online. I'm not condoning or condemning anyone... just passing it along.


1.You see a really hot girl walking down the street and you say to yourself "I wonder if she'll do my wife!"

2.Every bottle of liquor in your house has a big sticker with your membership number or couple name on it.

3.You are running out of excuses to tell your baby-sitter why you come home at 4am on Sat nights/Sunday morning and have a Freshly F*cked look.

4.Your closet is filled with 5" high heeled shoes... and you have more lingerie than most department stores.

5.You close an email to your sister with Bi Bi

6.You go to Jamaica once a year and "Hedo" means something to you.

7.You are running out of reasons to tell your "normal" friends why you can't go out with them

8.At work, when someone tells of a risqué adventure, most are shocked or stunned and you say "Cool!

9.All of a sudden.. you have friends in Minnesota, Utah, West Virginia, and New Mexico.

10.You are sending out online Christmas cards to people with names like: dareustwo, wifewetandbi, and xoticcouple

11.Your nightstand drawer is full of bar napkins with couples names and phone numbers.

12.Many of your pictures are from different hotel rooms and in quite a few you have a convention wristband on.

13.You only know couples by their first names and e-mail addresses.

14.You spend more time grooming your privates than most porn stars.

15.You make plans to meet a "normal" couple at a nice restaurant, and realize you have absolutely nothing you can wear.

16.You both turn your head to watch the hot woman walking down the street!

17.You never open the garage door until you're in the car with the doors closed.

18.At the gym shower you're the only one with shaved balls

19.Wondering how to explain to the neighbors why 10 couples show up on a Saturday night carrying over night bags,blankets, pillows and don't leave until early Sunday afternoon.

20.Your kids and the baby-sitter ask why mommy already has her coat on when she comes out of the bedroom every Saturday night.

21.When going to a strip club with your guy friends, instead of your wife, seems like a ridiculous waste of time and money.

22.You come home with that "there's something about Mary" hairstyle.

23.You have a lot of friends all over the world.

24.Before traveling somewhere on business or to visit relatives you look up couples in the area.

25.Giggling to yourself at the office when your coworkers tell you how wonderful their weekend was...If they only knew!!!!

By Fiona Macrae

Forget that little black dress. Gentlemen really prefer a lady in red. As actress Kelly Brook knows only too well.

Blushing in shades of crimson, scarlet or deep rose, a girl is regarded as prettier and more desirable, research shows.

She is also more likely to be asked out on a date - and have more money lavished on her during the outing

What is more, men seem completely oblivious to the effect that a glimpse of red can have on their emotions.

The researchers said it appeared they were driven by primal instincts that associate the color with sex.

The study, carried out at the University of Rochester in the U.S., involved a series of experiments in which men were shown a photo of a 'moderately attractive' young woman.

In some cases, the colour of the border framing the picture was changed, in other cases the color of the woman's blouse varied. Red, blue, green, grey and white were tested. In all cases, red was judged the most attractive.

The men were much more likely to ask out a woman wearing red. And they estimated they would spend almost twice as much on her as one in blue.

Despite the clear effect, the men insisted colour played little role in their choices, suggesting they were oblivious to the power of red.

The study, published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, claims to provide the first hard evidence of 'society's enduring love affair with red'.

From the red body paints used in ancient fertility rituals, to the phrase 'red light district' and the red hearts of Valentine's Day, the color has long been associated with romance.

In the animal world, red often signals a female is at her most fertile, with female baboons and chimps blushing conspicuously at this time.

Men are not alone in being attracted to red. The research suggests a man in scarlet is just as irresistible to women.

By Roger Highfield, Science Editor

A trove of potential drugs for conditions as diverse as impotence and arthritis could emerge from a study of venom from a potentially deadly spider.

Venom already has provided leads for therapeutics to treat arthritis and erectile dysfunction, and compounds found in venom are being studied to create organic, earth-friendly pesticides.

Now scientists have analyzed the components of the venom of more than 70 species of spiders, including the brown recluse, whose bites are known to cause painful, gangrenous lesions. Sometimes a limb is lost, even a life.

Prof Frank Schroeder and Prof Jerrold Meinwald of Cornell University, Ithaca, as reported in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, used a clever way to take a molecular snapshot of venom, without having to process it in any way.

They used a method called nuclear magnetic resonance spectroscopy, which studies the structure of molecules in the venom, and combined it with a method called mass spectrometry, which in effect weighs molecules.

"We show how using NMR spectroscopy for the analysis of a complex mixtures such as spider venom one can find new and entirely unexpected chemistry," said Prof Schroeder.

"Our research shows that brown recluse venom contains important, previously undetected components that have been overlooked."

The venom contains a blend of very big and small molecules. One of the latter was an entirely new structural class that had been missed by earlier studies.

These compounds, called sulphated nucleosides, are based on one of the building blocks of RNA, the genetic material, with one small but important structural modification: a phosphate group is replaced by a sulphate.

"Because we just recently identified these new nucleoside derivatives, we don't know much about their biological activity yet. It seems likely that they contribute to the toxic properties of the venom, but we can't yet say anything about their mode of action."

The venom also contained messenger chemicals that work in the brain and on nerves.

In addition, the venom has been shown to contain several different proteins, including enzymes such as hyaluronidase, deoxyribonuclease, ribonuclease, alkaline phosphatase, and lipase, which help to break down tissue, among other things.

Among these enzymes, sphingomyelinase D is thought to be the protein component responsible for most of the tissue destruction caused by brown recluse spider bites.

"One important aspect of our work is that it highlights that we still know very little about the chemistry of life," said Prof Schroeder.

"Even in case of a spider species such as the brown recluse, which has undergone extensive study by both chemists and biologists, our knowledge of the basic composition of its venom turned out to be very incomplete.

It seems likely that using new technology for chemical analysis will reveal many more such surprises, not only in spiders, but also in many other life forms, including vertebrates and mammals."